singleness season

Valentine's Day is coming up. A single persons favorite day of the year.

I feel like it's a weird day for me as a single mom. I have my kids. So I can show my love for them. I can show them how much they mean to me. I can spoil them with more chocolate, that they really don't need.

But then there is the other side of me. The side that wishes I had someone to show me they love me. Someone to show me how much they care about me. Someone to spoil me with chocolate that I don't need and flowers that will die because I'll forget to water them.

With the all the attention Valentine's Day gets, it can be hard not to feel that way. We're human. We long for that feeling to be wanted.

But we get so caught up in what we're missing that we don't see what's right in front of us.

Someone wants you. Someone loves you. Someone cares about you. Someone wants to show you how much you mean to them. You have a valentine, and it's honestly the best valentine you could have.

Jesus wants you. Jesus loves you. Jesus cares about you. Jesus is longing to show you how much you mean to Him. But when we get so wrapped up in what we don't have, we miss out on what we do have.

Don't get me wrong. I still wish I had someone that could physically be here with me. Someone that could give me a hug and a kiss. Someone that could buy me chocolate and flowers.

It's okay to feel that way.

"Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart's desires." Psalm 37:4, NLT.

God knows your heart's desires. He knows what you long for. And at the right time, God will bless you with the desires of you heart. Until then we have to be patient. Which is a lot easier said than done.

Instead of focusing on what we don't have right now, we can use this time to get to know God more. We can focus on accepting His love and learning to love like Him. That way when the time comes for God to give us the desires of our hearts, we will be ready to love them just as God loves us.

"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, NLT.

I don't know about you, but knowing that I have a God that loves me like that is so comforting. I make mistakes. I sin. I fail. I forget to pray. I forget to read God's word. I get so caught up with the things of this world that I forget God sometimes.

Yet, through all of my failures, God chooses to love me like that over and over again.

If we're being honest, it is really hard to love someone like that. As humans we are impatient, jealous, proud, rude. We demand that things go our way. We remember every wrong that's ever been done to us. We sometimes rejoice in wrongs. We give up easily. We lose faith. We lose hope. We give up when things get tough.

BUT. We have such a loving God that sets the best example for us in the way that He loves us. And He doesn't just want to love us. He wants us to love Him like that. He wants us to love others like that. He wants us to love ourselves like that.

So during your season of singleness, choose to accept God's love. Learn more about Him and His love. Grow in your relationship with Him. And when the right time comes for God to give you the desires of your heart, you will be full of God's love. You will be ready to share that love with someone else.